Before we get into this week's topic, did you know that Michelle and I go live on Thursday nights to discuss said topic? 👀👀👀.
Moving on. 😜 It's February, and the world is all about love...for the moment anyway. First up self love, 'cause
We've all heard about The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman, unless you live under a rock, but how can we apply this to self love? Enter the love therapist on IG. The graphic below is adapted from the principles in the book.
I saw this, and was hella proud that I do at least one thing from each column now. I use to think that taking time for myself was selfish. That I was somehow shorting my family, when in reality I was shorting myself. To be at my best, I need to nurture myself.
And honestly it isn't always about doing things for yourself. It could be the way you talk to yourself. Would you say the things you say internally to someone you love? Probably not. So why do we do it to ourselves?
As we continue to destigmatize therapy we as a collective seem to be learning that what we use to fill the void isn't working. We use partners, materials things, hell even kids, just to have something that will make us feel loved. And we still look in the mirror and don't truly see ourselves with eyes of love.
Our ideas of self worth, confidence, and ability are usually established in our youth, so what's the solution? How do we fill the hole on our own, so it stays full. I started in therapy, so I would definitely suggest that, but I also know that it isn't always an affordable option. The list above is a good place too. I love a good playlist when I'm in a funk as well.
*EAP is employee assistance program.*
Whatever method you choose, remember you are worthy. Always have been, and always will be.
'Look up in the mirror, like damn, she the one!' 😘