The Golden Rule

So, I talked about the Golden Rule this morning on my tiktok, but as the day went on the thought lingered with me...Why do people who mistreat people not expect to be mistreated?

Matthew 7:12 So in everything, do to others what you would have them do to you, for this sums up the Law and the Prophets.

I shared that I am not a match energy type person if the energy is negative. But let me be clear...I have matched negative energy many times before. I am no saint and I am no angel. In my past, I have cussed many a folk out behind them getting slick with me or treating me flip.

But about 15 years ago, pregnant with my second child and wondering what the HELL I was doing with my life, I decided that I was no longer matching negative energies. None of that was fueling my life forward. I was committing to only operating from a positive mindset and treating folks how I wanted to be treated. It started out rough because for a long time this shift drove me into an extreme phase of people pleasing. I thought that dedicating my life to God and letting folks run over me were synonymous. For some reason, I was compelled by a belief that walking by faith meant that you become a martyr and that martyrdom would somehow solidify a place in heaven. It took a long time for me to truly understand the word and release myself from the constraints of what people might think of me if I chose myself over being selfless. Whole time, being selfless was killing me because I literally spent more energy caring for others versus caring for myself. All while treating others the way I wanted to be treated and not having that treatment reciprocated.

I am not here to hold you long, I just want to share the power of finding and filling your circle with people who love themselves and treat themselves well so they naturally treat you well. I was treating people well and they were treating me like crap. I am grateful though because I stood and still stand firm in my belief of the Golden Rule! I will continue to treat people the way I desire to be treated, the only difference now is when I notice that they aren't treating me the way I desire to be treated, I remove myself from them. I am done accepting subpar treatment from people while I give royal treatment. They don't call me Princess for nothing!

Healing is such a process...it is very grief-like. As old habits die and new ones form, I am processing the death of who I once was and the birth of a stronger me. This version rests and resides in joy. This Michelle doesn't only tell others to take care of themselves, she acts on it. I love me and I mean that deeply and honestly it took me a long time to recognize that I am worthy of love. But trust me I won't forget it and I won't let you forget it either because you are worthy too!

I hope you found joy today and it you didn't I hope you didn't steal anyone else's!

Love you!

Love,

MichelleRena