There’s a scripture that says let everything you do be done in love (1 Corinthians 16:14.) I have gone much of my life trying to live by this. What I realized recently is much like the rest of the word, I think I might have misinterpreted it.
If we are commanded to let all that we do be done in love…does that include the things we don’t want to do?
I’m honestly asking for me because there’s a lot of times where I find myself doing things I don’t want to do and I can’t muster up the strength to do it in love because I truly and honestly don’t want to do it all. I have been exhausting myself trying to do things in love. So what do I end up doing?
I do it begrudgingly and that ain’t it. That’s simply not love.
So now that I’m older (this 38 hits different y’al) and have finally gotten a better understanding of myself and the word. I believe that doing things in love is powerful but also remembering that you don’t have to do everything that someone asks you and saying “no” in love is just as powerful.
I am learning to say ”no” in love so that I don’t have to fake my way through an experience that I just can’t do in love. ”No” is a love language. I find that many times people will ask you to do things simply because they know you will oblige even when you don’t want to. I would blame others for using me but it’s me who let them. Aht Aht!
You can say “NO” in love Sis! Stop doing shit you don’t want to do. Let what do be done in love. You have the power to choose what you do! Period!
This is a part of protecting your peace! Be just as blessed in your NO as you are in your YES!